This is for those who suffer from deep internal injuries, unrequited love pain, and self-esteem damage caused by hanging heavily.
What is more important than reunion is taking care of my heart. Here’s how to quickly restore self-esteem during the break after instructions.
1. Understand the current situation accurately
2. Have a positive mind
3. Throw away the idea that it’s only him.
4. Stop idealizing the other party
5. Clear all traces of the opponent
6. Getting rid of guilt
7. Drinking / Taking drugs
8. To understand that this pain must end, too.
In fact, the ordeal of separation is the best opportunity for us to become stronger and more mature.
Most of the success is often based on feelings of inferiority and pain.
Just as we need to give muscles more than a certain level of stress and stimulation in order to grow them during exercise.
In order for our minds to become stronger and more mature, we also need a certain level of ordeal.
The great men of the world have all grown up through great crises and trials, without exception.
As a result, it is very hard internally. You should use these times as a good motivational opportunity to greatly improve your value.
Let’s use this time carefully because we will meet again even if it takes time.
Right after a breakup, it’s hard to see except for a broken lover.
Even if I try to meet other people, I think I can’t do it without him, compared to my ex-girlfriend.
But this is because we are stuck in the frame of past relationships. Even if it takes time, someone who fits me and is attractive must appear.
Since a person usually dates someone of similar value to himself, his or her next relationship can also meet someone at least the level of his or her ex-
Of course, you may feel that you fit in well with your ex-girlfriend or that he has excellent absolute value, which may leave you with lingering feelings. But even if you’re an objectively great opponent, you’re going to have to
He means nothing to you if he hurts you. Ultimately, it’s about dating to be happy.
My self-esteem is temporarily lowered when I get a break-up notification, and the thought that I can’t have an opponent, so my brain looks up to the other person.
This may result in idealization of the opponent and beautification of past events.
But if you think about it carefully, obviously, we’ve had a lot of times when our partner didn’t seem attractive during a relationship, and there have often been times when other people came into our eyes.
In order to stop idealization, it is also a way to record each negative memory of the other.
The brain is easier to deceive than you think.
When invisible, less time is spent thinking about and agonizing over the other. It is better to delete or discard all photos, texts, phone records, bitwin, gifts, etc.
Relations in the past have already died. Even if you have a reunion, it’s a fresh start, so you can rebuild your memories.
In the course of the consultation, most of the talkers tend to blame themselves for the breakup.
I only remember that I couldn’t have done it during my relationship, and I think, “If I had done this then, I wouldn’t have broken up.”
However, parting is both a responsibility, and it is often caused by the opponent’s low self-esteem.
When you drink, your instinct is maximized.
Our brain sends orders to contact someone with a higher frame. This increases the likelihood of unexpected behavior.
Differences can be instantly incapacitated. And even if I don’t do anything unexpected, I suffer from the desire to see my lover.
During this time, it is best to raise self-esteem through healthy hobbies and self-development.
No matter how hard it is, parting is overcome.
Fortunately, the human brain has the ability to erase negative images. Because if all the painful memories are stored in the brain, humans cannot survive.
(If the injury is too deep, expert help may be required, but only in very serious cases)