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The Three Most Common Reasons for Couples Fight

For lovers, conversation is essential to prevent fighting.

Most of the fighting comes from misunderstanding and the efforts of the two are the way to resolve it.

The Three Most Common Reasons for Couples Fight

There are many reasons why lovers fight.

1. Jealousy

2. Family problems

3. Problems in Personal Space

For lovers, conversation is essential to prevent fighting.

Most of the fighting comes from misunderstanding and the efforts of the two are the way to resolve it.

The Three Most Common Reasons for Couples Fight

There are many reasons why lovers fight.

But for better relations, we should focus on the fundamental causes of the fight.

Lovers usually fight because of a lack of dialogue.

Sometimes they fight because they ignore the problem instead of solving it.

In any case, it is important to pause and talk to resolve the situation that has caused the conflict.

For the same reason, they don’t want the fight to be repeated.





1. Jealousy

The most common reason for lovers fighting is jealousy.

Jealousy is caused by many reasons, such as new friends, new friends on SNS, close relationships with ex-lover, and looking at attractive reason on the street.

Most jealousy cannot be justified. You don’t have to be jealous.

But our culture takes jealousy for granted in relationships. Why is that?

Because we are jealous of what we feel to own.

I get jealous at the thought that I might lose what I own. Therefore, anyone can be a rival.

This is deeply related to self-esteem and faith in oneself and partners, but learned behavior.

The healthiest way to deal with these problems is to check your self-esteem.

In addition, one should check whether one’s jealousy can be justified or whether it is the result of seeing and learning from others around him, such as parents, grandparents, brothers, etc.

After analyzing the situation, lovers need to talk to each other for confirmation.

We can help each other to be sure of what they have to do and how to do it, and we can stop meaningless jealousy.





2. Family problems

Another reason why lovers fight is family. When you start a relationship, you choose the person, not his family.

In many cases, however, many of the problems caused by the other’s family are caused by the diversity of faith.

A typical example is a conflict with a prospective mother-in-law.

This relationship doesn’t necessarily have to be a problem.

The fact that conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are common leads to an immediate defensive stance on the issue, which is by no means the right direction.


However, there may be problems by certain families that need to be solved by having conversations as lovers.

For example, if a person’s parent comes home and interferes with everything, it can cause problems.

Or, the relationship between parents and their children is so close that they call their children in every situation, the parents visiting without contact,

There are things like not acknowledging the child’s relationship or reacting hostilely.

Instead of accepting this unconditionally aggressively, make sure that the situation also makes the other party uncomfortable. That’s how we can resolve the conflict.





3. Problems in Personal Space

Sometimes relationships lead not only to jealousy but also to problems of personal space. One reason couples fight is because of the private space.

Lovers do everything together for years. It’s natural to want to be together when you’re in love, but everyone has their own friends and hobbies.

Establishing a relationship does not mean losing one’s individuality or becoming the same person.

If you like to take a walk alone, just because you have a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you have to change it.

But you’ve probably heard typical words like “You’re not with me at all” and “You’re not trying to fit me in.”

But even those who actually have relationships need a personal space. The problem is that when each person does each other’s work, jealousy can arise and harm the relationship.

Having a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you have to stop all your relationships with your favorite things, friends, or people of the same interest.

Two people in a relationship are different, not two people becoming one.

Sometimes you can feel the need for personal space from the beginning of a relationship, or after some time has passed.

It is most important to know how to respect the other person’s personal space. Because everyone needs personal space, and even if they think otherwise, they often need it.

If you are arguing with your lover often, if you felt sympathy from the above, you will now find a solution.

Of course, the premise is that the two must have an open mind and will to find the cause of the conflict.

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