It’s kind of weird to have to scold my kid like this.
A grown-up would get in trouble. What do you know about a kid who doesn’t know anything?
I did it without knowing it, and sometimes I know it. It’s up to the parenting staff to take the right path.
There’s a time for verbal ties, and there are times when you have to scold your child in the eye.
Today, Olenka is going to explain the four rules that you need to punish a child.
If he does something wrong, I’ll hold him gently on the shoulder.
Make eye contact with your mom.
Please make eye contact with him in your spare time, and when he’s able to catch his breath, please start talking.
First of all, please tie the child.
When a kid makes a mistake the first time he scolds,
“Why should I be scolded for this?”Why should I be scolded now?”
That’s what makes you think first.
Because of this, I have a reaction to it rather than a reflection, so please try to be very calm down.
I recommend that you be quiet, even if it’s your child’s first mistake.
Let’s say, for example, a kid ran around screaming in a restaurant.
This is obviously wrong.
You don’t know it yet. If you move on, the kid thinks it’s natural. He does it over and over again.
Oh, it’s too late to fix it.
When I first made a mistake, please tell me I shouldn’t look him in the eye.
The point is, you can’t be seen by others’ eyes.
Secondly, please point out why you shouldn’t specifically do it.
Anyone can simply do what they shouldn’t do.
But he doesn’t know exactly why.
That’s why we need to be clear about why we shouldn’t.
You took the restaurant as an example earlier, right? This time, let’s take a family situation as an example.
The child went up to the table to get scissors. When the mother who saw this scolds the child out loud,
You shouldn’t just do what your child has learned. That’s all. There’s no reason for why.
If this happens, please be specific about why it’s dangerous.
At the same time, “It’s dangerous to touch scissors carelessly. Tell your mom if you need her. I’ll help you.”
Third, punish me right where I did wrong.
If he does something wrong, he’ll be right there!Please scold me right away.
Never! Don’t tell me you’ll get in trouble when you come home.
After a while, he doesn’t know why I should be scolded.
Fourth, don’t scold me in front of others.
Praise them loudly in front of others.
Don’t scold anyone without letting them know.
When he gets scolded in public, he feels ashamed and ashamed of himself.
This could be a trauma later on, so if you’re going to scold me, go to the corner, or go to a place where others don’t see me.
Even between brothers and sisters, it’s better not to scold each other in front of each other.
Fifth, be consistent when you scold them!
You were scolded yesterday for doing the same thing, but you weren’t scolded today?
And then he’s confused, and he can’t tell if what he did was right or wrong.
As these behaviors build up, the child loses faith in the mother, and becomes dissatisfied and rebellious!
A lot of parents scold me once, so I let him do it twice.
That’s not a good thing.
Once you’ve done it, you’ve got to do it twice.
He’s different from adults, so once he talks, he doesn’t really listen.
Actually, adults don’t do anything nice just by saying it once, do they?